It's week 2 of Marketing for Romance Writers' 52-Week Blog Challenge. I love that we have topics. So much easier to write when someone else comes up with a topic.
HOW MY FAMILY SURVIVES MY WRITING.
When
I first started writing over twenty years ago, I was embarrassed to tell my
family. My kids were in high school, and I could feel them rolling their eyes
if I told them I was writing a romance story. To my surprise, they thought it
was great. Hubs thought it was a nice hobby until I told him I was serious
about this, that I was writing to be published. This was my
business.
He
supported me when I said I wanted to take a class at our local library on starting
a small business offered by the Michigan State University Extension Service. In
fact, he’s supported me all along. While he prefers reading
nonfiction, he will read my books. I’m not sure he realizes how interruptions
can be very distracting. But every morning (my best time to write) he’ll go
downstairs to his office, leaving me in peace. When I buried or on deadline (my
own, since I’m self-published), he’ll make dinner. Now that’s support!
My
kids, now grown with children of their own, say they’re proud of me. But it’s
got to be uncomfortable for them to read the sex scenes knowing their mother
wrote them.
When
the 3 “Moms”—my mother, mother-in-law, and her sister—read my first book, Switched, that
had some quite sensual scenes, it made me
uncomfortable. They told me they skipped those parts. LOL Unfortunately, they passed
away before my other books were published. I think they would have enjoyed my
PI mysteries a lot better than the science fiction romances. My sisters enjoy
the mysteries better, too.
My
grandchildren are too young to read my books. But they write their own stories
with me. I found this wonderful program, My StoryMaker, from the Carnegie Library at Pittsburgh. The
kids choose the characters, setting, tools, etc. and tell me the story, which I
type for them. At the end of the story, I print it out for them to show their
parents. We’ve been doing this since before they started school. Five years
later, their stories are now longer with more depth. It’s great combining
something I love (writing) with fun time with the kiddies.
I am truly blessed by my family’s support.
It's wonderful how supportive your family is! The hubs doesn't read my books, but my girls (15) do- I don't have much sex in my stories- but even less now that I know they read them. 😳
ReplyDeleteI know I'm fortunate in having such support. When my grandkiddies are older they can read my PI mysteries because there isn't descriptive sex in them First, their mother has to approve, LOL
DeleteHaving family support is wonderful. Yes I'm sure it is awkward to have family members read sex scenes. This challenge is a great idea and keeps you on point. Hey Diane!
ReplyDeleteHey, Sheena-kay. I love getting a topic rather than having to come up with one on my own. That's one of the reasons I like IWSG's suggested question each month.
DeleteMy first grandchild is on the way, so I'm going to check out that program link!
ReplyDeleteIt's a great program. Congrats on the grandchild. Enjoy!
DeleteIts funny how are first instinct is to hide it! Glad you have so much family support.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Shari.
DeleteMy kids support me but they don't read my books. But then again I have boys.
ReplyDeleteI think romance is awkward for boys. But it's great to have their support.
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ReplyDeleteYour family sounds lovely. How awesome you get to share the love of writing with your grandkids.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Trevann. It is great to write with them.
DeleteGreat support system, and I love that you write with your grandkiddies.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Elizabeth.
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